Welcome to the era of all things cyber! Yes you may call us overly positive and daring but isn’t it the latest mode in which today’s bachelors and spinsters socialize themselves and meet new people?
Sure you have come across many who throw the wild eye look in your face the moment they hear that you met your ex-boyfriend over the internet. Then you suddenly feel this agitation running down your stomach while voicing the thoughts in your mind which screams “did I do the right thing?” Well, well, well – all things are fair in love and war, so need I say more?
As opposed to the traditional ways in which two people meet and understand one another through experience, cyber romances blossom in different ways. The cyber etiquettes are central to the entire flirting process that makes cyber romance possible and unluckily for some; these etiquettes are not written down in paper. That is why many people turn their scepticism on the technique.
The Silent Observer Phase
If you are a new comer to the cyber society, you should take time to pick things up on this dimension. It’d be very prudent to become a silent observer for a couple of days. You can easily do this online at chat rooms that are open to the public. The silent observer phase ensures that you learn the cyber norms without making a fool out of yourself.
Active Participant Phase
Once you are confident enough to loaf about and expose yourself to the cyber community, you could actively engage in forums and other networking sites. User privacy is a huge issue on the internet, therefore when you conduct yourself in there, always bear in mind to retain your privacy while allowing privacy to others.
The Mannered Boy/Girl Phase
Once you understand the do’s and don’ts of the internet, you are able to showcase your true colours while engaging in milliards of things to build contacts online. Provided you have plenty of time to be spending online, you will be able to emerge as an internet persona in no time.
Mr. Popular/Miss. Popular Phase
The popularity phase is the final stage that indicates that you have been successful in your transition from a non-cyber person to a cyber drifter. Once you reach this stage, you will be known by almost everybody in the cyber community that you have selected. You will be known as a fun person to be with and you will have made some significant friends online.
Where to Go From Here....
In the mean time, you will see that other cyber drifters who show enthusiasm or interest in you, approaching you in different ways. This is your time to either encourage them or discourage them (depending on your preference) to what can end as a potential cyber romance.
Remember that cyber romance requires that you use your gut feeling or your instincts up to a greater extent. So don’t do anything that you don’t feel like doing because although you may feel quite safe in the cyber space, it really is not that safe if you haven’t taken enough precautions to protect yourself.